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I keep reading in various articles and in marriage self-help books that the reason a spouse cheats is because of something the other spouse did or didn’t do? But this is incorrect information. To blame one spouse for the sexual indiscretions of the other only gets the cheater off the hook, so to speak. What a web of deceit we can weave. It’s wrong folks.

 

Everyone originates from God and everyone is accountable to God for his or her actions. The root of unfaithfulness in marriage has absolutely nothing to do with who we are married to. It has to do with who we are as people.

 

What really causes a spouse to cheat is the lack of the spiritual Christ in his or her life. Spiritual bankruptcy is the root of unfaithfulness to God and to our spouse.  Living a spiritual life and experiencing the power of Christ tends to make people realize how important they really are and that is when morals begin changing in that person for the good, and the temptation to cheat goes away from their heart and mind.

 

What causes a spouse to cheat is lack of morals – It takes a person of upright character to withstand the temptations of society.  If a person does not trust in, and believe in God they will follow what the world does. It is really that simple. Sometimes a person will commit adultery even when they know it is wrong.  It is a lifestyle thing. Monkey see, monkey do. 

 

If you have no faith you will live with no faith. If you think you are a believer in Christ and are still cheating on your spouse, maybe it is time to review your faith. 

Have you committed your life to Jesus Christ? That’s the question that needs answered? If you answered no, then you will live your life under your own understanding of what you think, feel and believe, which ultimately leads to sin.

 

[Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexuals offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the Kingdom of God. 1 Corinthians 6: 9-11]

 

In the above scripture, Paul was describing the characteristics of unbelievers. If you feel that you are a believer but continue in these practices you will not inherit the Kingdom of God.  Such people need to re-examine their lives to see if they truly are believers in Christ Jesus.

 

In other words people are condemned not because of what they do not know, but for what they do with what they know. If a person knows that adultery is a sin and they still cheat on their spouse, then God will judge them.  People violate the very standards that they create for themselves. The standards of society are sin.  So if we live by that foundation for our marriage, what do you think is going to happen?

 

If a man or woman is not dedicated to their marriage and they have no principles to base marriage on, then the commitment level will not mean much to them either, and they will stray from the marriage bed. It’s that simple.

 

So next time you read that the cause of a spouse’s infidelity is because of the person they are married to, think again. Couples need to stop blaming each other and start taking responsibility for their own actions.

 

[He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of men, but God knows your hearts. What is highly praised among men is detestable in God’s sight." Luke 16:15]

 
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