Angie Lewis

3 Principles For A Sucessful Marriage



Posted: Monday, November 17, 2008

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Heaven Ministries

If you want a great marriage, then you've got to understand a few of the principles involved with having a great marriage. You shouldn't just read about what you can do to make your marriage better. Apply the principles into your marriage and become what the principle says.

1. Treat Spouse The Way You Want To Be Treated

" Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets." Matthew 7:12

How would you like to be treated? Would you like your spouse to treat you like one of the kids, or perhaps like a parent, a mother or father? Would you want your significant other to only think about their needs and wants? Would you want to receive forgiveness if you did something against the marriage? If you aren't treating your spouse with kindness and respect now, why not? This principle is a given in all relationships, not just marriage. The golden rule as comprised by Jesus is the foundation for a good marriage.

2. Drink Water From Your Own Cistern (Proverbs 5:15)

"But I tell you anyone who even looks at another woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28

The best principle to stay faithful in marriage is to not "look" in the first place. You have to change your attitude from lust to love meaning don't think of the opposite sex with lust in your heart, but rather genuine love and respect. Ask God to help you with lustful thoughts and temptations. Don't be afraid to humble yourself to God, for He is your Father. In all of your ways, acknowledge Him, and He will keep your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:6)

3. Understand the difference Between Love and Lust

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:4

Real love (God's kind of love) is directed outward towards others love gives of oneself. Real love is unconditional. Lust and desire is directed inward towards self. Both lust and desire are selfish motives intended to please the ego. It may not seem selfish at the time, when you want something bad enough, but it is selfish to use another to fulfill our lustful desires that's not love.

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred people confuse lust feelings with love feelings. Here's how to tell the difference. Every time you feel love the way you perceive it to be, ask yourself this "Will I be trespassing into someone else's territory, emotionally, physically, or spiritually to feel this kind of love"? If the answer is yes, than it is not love. Love would not trespass intentionally against another person. You might carelessly have the thoughts, but you would not let them control your mind and actions. Do you see the difference?

In scripture, the husband's body belongs to the wife, and the wife's body belongs to the husband. But no one else's body, emotions, or relationship with God belongs to you. Flirting, looking, kissing, is stepping into someone else's territory, even if that person is not married.

Angie and Frank Lewis created Heaven Ministries, a healing and restoration marriage ministry. Heaven Ministries ~ Marriage Healing Ministry What is God's design for marriage. What is God's plan for you and your marriage?

Angie and Frank also created a new ministry geared to single Christians about scriptural romance and Godly courtship. Do you know what God's plan is for you in the romance department? Heaven Ministries ~ Scriptural Romance in Preparation to Marriage
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